The very word "friendship" is not of the heights --
the word "friendliness" rises to the moon, to the sun -- because the
word "friendship" is just of the mind. It is confining -- you can be
in friendship with only a few people. But friendliness is vast; you can be
friendly to the trees, to the mountains, to the stars. Friendship is hiding a
bondage too. All words like "relationship," "friendship,"
are superficial. Lovingness, friendliness, have a totally different meaning.
When you are talking about friendship it is a very small thing -- a kind of
bondage, and dependence on the person with whom you feel the friendship. But
friendliness is freedom -- you are not dependent on anybody. Friendship is
objective, and friendliness is your love shared unconditionally with the whole
existence. They don't mean the same thing. Friendship can become any moment its
opposite -- the so-called friend can turn into your enemy. But friendliness has
no particular address. It is not for anybody, it is for the whole existence. It
can never turn into its opposite. Remember, that which can turn into its
opposite very easily -- and you know friends become enemies, enemies become
friends -- is very superficial, a false substitute. But friendliness is not
addressed to anyone; it is the love overflowing within you, unconditionally.
There is no possibility of it turning bitter -- you are the master of it. In
friendship you are not the master. Friendship is like marriage, an artificial
thing, but friendliness is your very nature.
OshO |
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