twenty-one and twenty-eight somewhere, if everything goes smoothly the way I am
saying, without interference from others, then you settle. And the most
pleasant period of life comes from twenty-eight to thirty-five -- the most
joyous, the most peaceful and harmonious because two persons start melting and
merging into each other.
From thirty-five to forty-two, a new step, a new door opens. If up to
thirty-five you have felt deep harmony, an orgasmic feeling, and you have
discovered meditation through it, then from thirty-five to forty-two you will
help each other go more and more into that meditation without sex, because sex
at this point starts looking childish, juvenile. Forty-two is the right time
when a person should be able to know exactly who he is.
From forty-two to forty-nine he gets deeper and deeper into meditation, more
and more into himself, and helps the partner in the same way. They become
friends. There is no more husband and there is no more wife; that time has
passed. It has given its richness to your life; now there is something higher,
higher than love. That is friendliness, a compassionate relationship to help
the other to go deeper into himself, to become more independent, to become more
alone -- just like two tall trees standing separate but still close to each
other, or two pillars in a temple supporting the same roof -- standing so
close, but so separate and so independent and so alone.
From forty-nine to fifty-six this aloneness becomes your focus of being.
Everything in the world loses meaning. The only thing meaningful that remains
is this aloneness.
From fifty-six to sixty-three you become absolutely what you are going to
become: the potential blossoms.
From sixty-three to seventy you start getting ready to drop the body. Now you
know you are not the body, you know you are not the mind either. The body was
known as separate from you somewhere when you were thirty-five. That the mind
is separate from you was known somewhere when you were forty-nine. Now,
everything else drops except the witnessing self. Just the pure awareness, the
flame of awareness remains with you, and this is the preparation for death.
Seventy is the natural life span for man. And if things move in this natural
course then he dies with tremendous joy, with great ecstasy, feeling immensely
blessed that his life has not been meaningless, that at least he has found his
home. And because of this richness, this fulfillment, he is capable of blessing
the whole existence.